Doesn’t have to be a thing you bought. Just some thing you didn’t have but then once you did it expanded your scope of actions.
The first obvious example that comes to mind is a car. Plenty of drawbacks to prevalence of cars, but being able to go where I want when I want, and far away, is very transformative.
I’m interested in other examples of things that aren’t just useful, but that open new possibilities.
I had a teacher advise me to make a habit of occasionally seeking out embarrassment, to stay in the habit, and prevent being paralyzed by fear of embarrassment.
I’ve followed that advice for years, and it’s like a super power.
I’ve done so much cool shit that a previous version of myself would have been afraid to try.
I don’t even remember all the embarrassing stuff, even though there’s plenty. The cool stuff is what sticks in my memory, even though I’m prone to remembering my mistakes.
Saw a Ted talk that said the same thing. The guy over came some social anxiety by actively putting himself in an awkward situation each day (his was asking if he could get his coffee for free at the coffee shop). Once he got use to low stakes situations where people were surprised, confused or mildly judgemental (but also amused or just disinterested) it was easier to do things that actually mattered without worrying about people’s reactions. And he got a few free coffees.
First step is to post something onpopular but true on Lemmy, and be OK with the downvotes. I dare you all. :)
Youtube is actually good for both viewers and uploaders if you use it right. If youre upset with your experience of it, its your fault.
HAMAS are terrorists and a part of the New Axis of fascist dictatorships which consist of Russia, Iran, China and North Korea among other minor countries and militant groups. Free Palestine movement is their loud, but in the grand scheme of thinga inconsequential piece of propaganda. TikTok is one the main propaganda tools of the Axis. There. Got downvoted for this plenty of times. Good thing the useful idiots are just a loud minority of primarily well-off USA students who cosplay being communists without understanding a thing about communism.
Socialism, the WEF, and those big organizations are ruining the world and want to enslave all humanity. You will own nothing and like it and eat zee bugs.
Well said.
I’m on Kbin, my superpower is that Lemmy downvotes can’t touch me.
Kbin is better than Lemmy.
A low-powered zoom microscope. I can again look at and work on tiny things, fix jewelry, electronics, remove splinters. Use it WAY more rhan I ever thought I would.
For anyone interested, just Google “stereoscopic dissecting microscope used”. The ‘used’ part is to makes it less expensive. They can cost a lot. I used to use my lab sonicator water bath to clean my jewelry, and our dissecting scope to check the jewelry to make sure all the skin crud is gone from every crevice.
Moving to a city with a tool library. For an annual £20 fee I can borrow any of a myriad of power tools. Currently using an orbital sander for some DIY, previously borrowed a hedge trimmer for the garden, it’s freaking great.
Transitioning
Literally, tyrosine and iodine, because my thyroid gland was running slow and I was feeling cold most of the year. Now my body’s idling power is higher.
I am handicapped and in early retirement. I had a hard time going on walks, got tired fast, there was always the fear of stumbling/falling again and carrying a bag was painful using a backpack made me getting tired faster.
I bought an expensive walking helper /walker with 4 wheels (not something you sit on and drive, but walk behind), a seat and a big bag for shopping. I feel like superwoman now when I am on a walk, because I can walk longer, buy stuff and just put it on the thing and it is so easy to get even heavy stuff home and whenever I get tired and no matter where I am, I just sit down, relax, power comes back and I can keep going.
The best thing I have ever bought in my whole life.
I was told this is only for very old people and that it looks ridiculous at my age and that I would not need it by everyone, fuck them. It is pure quality of life and increases my power to over 9000! I have been more outside in the last 12 months, than in the 5 years before that because of it.
My divorce. I didn’t even realize that my ex-wife was abusive until getting into the divorce process. Once I got away and started to understand, I began to take some of my power back and develop even more. I went from terrified of her to strong and confident.
I hope your new positive path continues. Good luck, said the survivor or a bad marriage.
Thanks. You too!
Learned to code. Most profitable hobby I’ve ever had. Crazy fun.
Confidence.
Underrated answer here. Real, or outwardly displayed, it’s a game changer.
Does upgrading my electrical panel count?
stopped getting fussed over things outta my control
I moved to a different country driven by a wanting to become worldly rather than for economic reasons.
Facing a whole new place, with a different language, different social norms and expectations and even different living conditions, like that on your own makes you massivelly more adaptable to new environments, as a later move to a different country showed as well as living for a couple of months in yet another one.
When I figured out how to run computational chemistry software on my home pc. It entirely changed how I saw chemistry because I could tinker and experiment with (virtual) molecules on a grand scale. Being able to run five maybe ten thousand simulations significantly increased my understanding.
Money.
As sad as it is, it’s true. I was broke for so many years that I even today, after years of having some, it eats at me paying so much for a car or other stuff. And I don’t know if I should change. I think I’ll never will anyways. Just trying to help without being exploited. First: tell no one how much money your project (or whatever) made. Wife and kid know, obviously, no one else. ESPECIALLY not “family”. But it’s a super power in our world that one could get lawful justice if anybody does you wrong. Without any money, you won’t. From experience. And the daily anxiety is gone. Ok, not gone, but very, very small. Completely without I’d be too lazy in the long run, I presume.
Experience. Learning when it’s okay not to give a fuck, and when I definitely should.
At some point you just realized everyone is “faking it till they make it”
