Locking as it’s not a question. Sorry you’re going through that OP but there are other communities to get support.

This technically violates rule #5 but I feel like it’s a valuable information and discussion to have available.

Locking: rule 5, already answered, and no more to be said

It’s what lemmy recommends for private messages since admins can see lemmy DMs. A lot of instances have matrix rooms too.

Sad that I only was sure it was fake half way through

Don’t worry, there’s no such thing as an oak tree.