Last year kind of killed the idea of being happy about my birthday for me. I always used to hope something fun or kind would happen and it never does. Got a text from my best bud in the morning and the rest of the day was just a day. None of my family remembered or if they did, they made a conscious effort to not say anything. Not sure which is worse? I don’t talk to any of them anymore. I’ve pretty much orphaned myself in the last two years or so and I’ve been pretty happy about that to be honest.
This year I just went out and got myself some stuff, hung out with my kid, and played some board games with my wife. It was much better to just not expect anything from anyone.
I’ve done this for a few years - if anyone asks what I want, it’s to spend time with my kid and I’ll get myself something frivolous.
now that kids are teens and there’s only one left at home, I’ll take any of his time I can get
I’m a geek, a gadget freak, and I realized long ago that my interests are specific enough to not be worth explaining to people
This year I’m buying myself a new iPad. That’s also well over the limit for gifts (I used to take my ex on trips for hers so she’d have experiences in addition to gifts, but that cost is somewhat hidden)
Last year kind of killed the idea of being happy about my birthday for me. I always used to hope something fun or kind would happen and it never does. Got a text from my best bud in the morning and the rest of the day was just a day. None of my family remembered or if they did, they made a conscious effort to not say anything. Not sure which is worse? I don’t talk to any of them anymore. I’ve pretty much orphaned myself in the last two years or so and I’ve been pretty happy about that to be honest.
This year I just went out and got myself some stuff, hung out with my kid, and played some board games with my wife. It was much better to just not expect anything from anyone.
I’ve done this for a few years - if anyone asks what I want, it’s to spend time with my kid and I’ll get myself something frivolous.
This year I’m buying myself a new iPad. That’s also well over the limit for gifts (I used to take my ex on trips for hers so she’d have experiences in addition to gifts, but that cost is somewhat hidden)