I have imposter syndrome, both at work and in my relationship.

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      7 months ago

      That sounds like absolute hyperbole.

      Also while there are times I do feel lonely and desperately want someone to share my life with, I am under no illusions that what I am imagining is a fairytale and that a real relationship will be very different.

      In my dreams my partner has no real objectives on her own, that would be increadibly boring in reality.

      In my dreams my partner is an accessory to my existance only existing to make me happy, in reality in an ideal relationship we both have goals, needs and wants, and work together to acchive both or goals, needs and wants.

      I realize that my dream partner does not exist as I imagine her, and that we will both need to grow into a successfull partnership.

      I am still quite happy living alone, so if/when a relationship doesn’t work out, I will still be capable of living on my own.

      I don’t want a housewife, I find the entire concept unfair to both parties, unfair to me for shouldering me with all income for the household, unfair to my partner for forcing her to give up her carreer. I realize it works for some, but not for me.

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          7 months ago

          Well obviously if you just speak to people who has had bad experiences, then yeah, you will just hear about the bad stuff…