• I live with my parents (both). I have job.

  • I did my share duty: I help pay family electricity/water bill, pay my brothers tution fee.

  • Currently, my salary is multiple time my living cost, so I can save more than half of my salary (no pay rent, no marry, no children)

  • My mum has a brotehr who is not financial stable. She help him (few time yearly, not one time, but yearly). She is very stress about this situation. => when she ask me and my dad to chip in, we both said nope, then ask her to give up on that money black hole. => really hurt our family relationship, because she refuse to do so.

  • That dude (my uncle) have family he has to support. If I chip in with my own salary, his children living standard will increase, they will have better future. It will cost me my spare salary (i will not able save like, 50% of my salary per month)

  • But I don’t want to waste money. That money give away is like charity that I can never get back. I don’t want to piggy back few dude on my back for years.

So, how do you think on this case.

  • norske@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    This sounds like a complicated situation. I am sorry you have to deal with this.

    Is there an alternative where you could help your nieces/nephews with things to improve their situation without giving money to Uncle Moneypit?

    Dealing with family money things is not fun.

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      1 year ago

      They are (2 dudes) in high school now.

      They will in college/university soon, in next few year.

      I am not intent to cover any living cost or tuition fee for those dudes. I have my own brothers, that is tooo enough.

      Currently I have no idea how to help without involve a lot of money.

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      1 year ago

      I even don’t think their problem is money.

      In my simulation in my head, they will be fine without all my mum salary too.

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          1 year ago

          Live truely like you are poor. Spend less on useless thing. Don’t go vacation … (they really did)

          Asking for tuition fee reduce policy from government. Quit afterschool English class. Don’t use air conditioner, use fan instead. …