Obviously I can understand why mysoginists are hated upon, As their belief is all women are trash or men are superior etc. But why are incels also generally hated upon? They are lacking in a way that makes them unable to gey in a relationship, but that shouldn’t necessarily mean they are mysoginists, right?

What am I missing here? I haven’t ever had a relationship with a woman, but I don’t hate all women either. I just consider myself unlucky. Does that make me an incel?

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    It isn’t obtuse to state with moral clarity that it is always wrong to treat someone differently on the basis of their sex

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      When there’s a preponderance of empirical evidence that a certain group of people poses a larger risk to another group of people, it validates the decision to approach them with caution.

      You’re arguing that women should just ignore the reality that they are likely to be assaulted (remember, 81%) and that the people most likely to assault them are men. It is reasonable and right for women to exercise caution and clarity when engaging with men for that reason. This isn’t hard, it requires a person to be willfully ignorant to disagree with it. Get your feelings out of this matter and look at the reality we live in.

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        When there’s a preponderance of empirical evidence that a certain group of people poses a larger risk to another group of people, it validates the decision to approach them with caution.

        Literally Nazi rationale for 1930s Germany. Or White Americans justification for segregation. Or Israeli justification for genocide against Palestinians

        People are people. Immutable traits have no influence on how anyone should ever be treated

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          In every case you cite there was not a preponderance of empirical data. It was fabricated.

          Are you arguing that the data I’m citing is fabricated?

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            You’re saying that the FBI crime statistics demonstrating that more crimes per capita are committed by black Americans than any other race are fabricated?

            If so, then shouldn’t we similarly disbelieve all similar demographic data?

            If not, then shouldn’t we segregate black Americans away from the rest of us?

            The point is that you are making the arguments of a white supremacist and a segregationist

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              You’re saying that the FBI crime statistics demonstrating that more crimes per capita are committed by black Americans than any other race are fabricated?

              Yes. I am. But not the way you’re thinking. The data is unreliable for the following, well documented, reasons:

              It doesn’t account for socioeconomic disparities, which is a far greater indicator and predictor of crime than race.

              It doesn’t acknowledge systemic bias and racism in policing practices, again well documented.

              It doesn’t take into account disparities in reporting and data collection.

              Ultimately the fbi statistics are in fact questionable for a multitude of reasons, the least of which being that they are direct statistics that don’t take into account underlying causes.

              The statistics regarding women and sexual assault are quite straight forward with far fewer underlying questions. The reality is, in fact, that sexual assault is known to be quite under reported and that the numbers we have are known to be understating the issue.

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                It doesn’t account for socioeconomic disparities, which is a far greater indicator and predictor of crime than race.

                It doesn’t acknowledge systemic bias and racism in policing practices, again well documented.

                It doesn’t take into account disparities in reporting and data collection.

                Ultimately the fbi statistics are in fact questionable for a multitude of reasons, the least of which being that they are direct statistics that don’t take into account underlying causes.

                Right and all of these clearly disadvantage black Americans, and specifically black men, for obviously racist reasons.

                Why do these not also disfavor men generally for equally bigoted reasons? Are there not fallacious biases regarding the innate criminality of men just as there are fallacious biases regarding the innate criminality of black people?

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                  I’m so done with your bad faith arguments. Jfc.

                  You’re intentionally obtuse, you ignore the points I’m making, making up fallacious and straw man arguments, ignoring empirical data, and failing to make a single argument with any sort of data to support it. Instead you engage in whataboutism as if it is some gotcha moment that should win me over and start convincing women to stop being cautious around men because if they don’t they’re bigots, when you have made clear time and again that you don’t even understand what bigotry is. Get your shit together and make a valid argument or shut up. Until you do, I’m out.