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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • All the Lemmy (and Kbin) servers (instances) can theoretically talk to each other. You can follow communities on other instances and comment and post like you are used to.

    You could think of each server as an independent city-state, each with it’s own leaders, customs and citizens.

    If two instances have a feud that can’t be resolved, they will “defederate” and then their users will no longer be able to contact each other.

    There are Nazi instances here in the Fediverse (for example), but they get blocked on sight so you almost never see their garbage in the feeds.

    Does that help?


  • I don’t agree with this in all cases.

    True, parents usually have a deeply ingrained emotional need to protect and nurture their children but:

    • Not all parents do. Narcissists have children all the time. When they do, they cloak their emotional vampirism in ‘love’ like they do in all relationships.
    • Even parents with the best intentions have to work HARD not to pass on their generational traumas, abuses, and bad habits.
    • Only the child can truly know what will fulfill them as a person. Parents often substitute what they wanted for their younger selves for the child’s best interest.

    For those still thinking I have no idea what I am talking about and you and your parents are different… please look into “enmeshment” for your own sake