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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • There are times where there’s something I want, but won’t get it unless it happens to be convenient while getting things I need. Like ice cream; on my way out I’m going through exactly 1 frozen food aisle and if there’s something else I want to check that’s not in the ice cream aisle, then I just don’t get ice cream (and if I do go through that aisle and I’m still unlikely to get it unless its on sale). The exposure only matters because being exposed to it means its convenient, not that I suddenly want something I hadn’t considered.


  • You say it doesn’t exist, but you promoted the anti-virgin and anti-single norms (whether you believe in them or not) and try to tie complex multifaceted issues like depression and loneliness to your single pet issue. You say I’m acting in bad faith, but I take personal issue with the ideas you are promoting incidental to your main point (which isn’t something I’m really responding to at all).



  • Women were under the opposite pressure: to stay a virgin. Also, some people don’t want to be in relationships. In middle/high school, a lot of dating was obviously performative and they were only “dating” because of social pressures to do so. I’m no longer a teen, so I have no clue what the pressures are now. It could be the pressures are still there and more people are failing to meet them (hence, the incel community). I know they’re not completely gone, because I still sometimes hear about things like people dating because they want to have someone for prom or whatever.

    Given how complex mental health is, trying to tie it to just one thing that correlates with it is not very convincing. Likewise, even if incel culture is on the rise, it seems much more reasonable to connect that to the growth of the internet and the niche communities it allows to fester and become visible.