I just had my first serious art show. Not solo, but still.
So sorry your mom behaved like that. Mine would say “Oh you got birthday money from grandpa? Here, I’ll save it for you” and of course when I wanted it back, she would get bent out of shape yelling that she had given me life and she wasn’t expecting anything in return So why should I. Awful all around.
I never thought about this topic like this. FWIW I’ve done both. Always got financial help (Dad payed for my car, stuff that was not covered by scholarships, vacation, extra curricular classes or interests, etc.) and then when he lost his job I helped financially for a bit while he got up on his feet again. I miss him everyday ❤️
Elfen Lied
I wish the person who laid down the stone paths you just described could read what you so beautifully wrote about their special place.
After I quit smoking, I wanted to do something with my hands so I bit my nails until it hurt.
Crochet was/ is something I can do with my hands and at the end I get a cool hat or a nice scarf. Yarn gets expensive, tho.
I like buying and owning some stuff, sure, but not being able to do so doesn’t not make me go/feel insane.
Sometimes guilt creeps in but then I remember I am allowed to own and enjoy things that have no other purpose than to be enjoyed. I don’t come from money, lived a very frugal life with my parents and while I went to private school all the way through college it was through scholarships and what not.
So maybe I am justifying myself, which is fine too, but now that I can have a bit of extra change and not be a starving student I know there are some stuff that I am willing to buy for whatever reason. This will not make me poorer or richer.
ETA: Mostly try to find something you enjoy, not something that feels like a chore. Also, diet and fit culture are like poison so I would advice to find true compassionate professionals to help you out in your search.
Yes in my case BUT I had to find the right exercise for me as well as the best time of day to do it.
I now do it everyday and have done so for 17+ years. Sometimes I pepper some different stuff here and there, but nothing crazy. Also, food. The correct meals for me have made all the difference in the world in how I feel. This also includes some extra minerals that my body needs.
Trinket goblin reporting! I save tons of different little things and stuff for a while, then one day, for no apparent reason I get overwhelmed and throw away everything( or donate or whatever) Cereal boxes are great to paint gouache so I cut them up and use them as needed. Embroidery floss and yarn scraps are great stuffers for small amigurumi. Electrical wire can be used sometimes for kumihimo. Empty glass jars are my doom, I collect them all.
Will look into that. Thanks!
I agree with you that craving something is not a dysfunction. I was makig a reference to my own executive dysfunction and how it interferes with meals/feeding but I think I didn’t do it properly. Language barrier and what not.
But when it has been a year and then you “rediscover” an old favorite it gets added again and the cycle continues, right?
That’s what happens with me.
Any current favorites you want to share?
Growing up with an eating disorder fucks up hunger cues among other things, then add food insecurity to the mix and it gets complicated. Intuitive eating doesn’t work for some people.
Yeah basically lol. Sometimes I feel like just eating “ingredients”, sometimes I feel like ordering something and sometimes I can cook and eat a proper meal. Just keeping it real.
Oh I hear you. My dietitian plans my meals for me and that can be both a blessing and a curse. I try to find middle ground between sticking to my meal plan and eating soup everyday lol.
I would love to be able to do that, like just get up in a whim and get whatever I fancy.
You lucky dog!
Yeah, you are probably right. I just thought more people felt like that. Guess not, and that’s alright.