I try not to use any of those words, but it is hard as they are so prevalent in society, even in my progressive and inclusive circle.

I decided a while ago to substitute all those with the word “Turnip” - as in the vegetable. I doubt anyone could be genuinely offended by that and it sounds good when said - Don’t be a Turnip! try it out, its a fun word to use and people seem to be tickled by it.