PhobosAnomaly

It’s me

Hi

I’m the data it’s me

Tough one. As has already been mentioned, there has to be a clear line where the kids are involved - that is to say, are you going to be there for them or not?

If it’s the latter, that’s not an issue. Declaring that from the outset isn’t a drama - single parents aren’t suddenly robots and enjoy the affection, sex, and friendship too. There’s no expectation beyond that and a few hot dates, and if it does start to cross red lines then there’s a clear reason to start nosediving it into the sea.

I think leading a parent on though to the point where you’re introduced to the kids and become a part of their life, and then drop the bombshell that you’re after the casual or physical side of things means your actions have caught more than just the pair of you in the blast, and that just sucks.

Honesty isn’t hard, and most of the time it’s pretty hot!

e for context: I use “you” in the assumption that you’re looking to date a parent - reframe it to your own view :)

I should check usernames.more

Man I haven’t been keeping up with the remakes. Is that Adam Jensen or Albert Wesker?

Goatse.

Every time.

I have no idea who this geezer is and I hope it stays that way.

At the risk of sounding dismissive, I lost interest when he threw out the “social experiment” bullshit and his credibility went down the toilet with it.

Good on the dude for losing the beef though. Regardless of who you are, it takes balls and it takes effort.

I find it quite handy - it’s a bit excessive on nearly every post, but it does add context when I don’t recognise the news source, and it’s useful to see whether I really need to do some more digging on the article rather than should look for other views on a story.

It’s frustrating to see a comment or two on a post preview pane you’re interested in though and boom, it’s a bot rather than another user to engage with.

It would work really well as a plug in or tool, giving you inline information in the post itself.

Oh I like a pessimistic view - partly because it makes a discussion spicier, but also because it’s important for a user to understand the power that an instance owner wields!

Oh man, this is awesome - it’s wonderful hearing from the practitioners of the art!

I’m just trying to figure out what driver establishing the tipping point for breaking or the ban hammer - is there any empirical data to drive these decisions, or is the fediverse user base small enough that you act on “feel” or “professional instinct”?

Managing emerging technologies fascinates me so any input - including the germs you’ve already volunteered - is very much appreciated 👍

That’s a strong viewpoint and I appreciate where you’re coming from, but how many votedicks does it take to derail a post? I appreciate the fediverse is reasonably small in comparison to othe headline social media sites, but does banning one or two bots or people do enough to save posts from getting bombed?

Thamk you for the insight, instance administrator views are valuable and unique.

At the risk of sounding like I’m presenting a bad faith argument, why ban them? I don’t like the whole “free market” analogy but surely it’s one of the liberating features of federated servers, being able to to largely express your votes or content as you see fit within the legal framework of the host nation. Wouldn’t the odd one or two mass downvoters/upvoters/theyvoters ultimately be a statistical abberation or is the fediverse still small enough for this sort of shit to carry weight?

Open criticism of my view welcome, as always!

I’m all for bringing back National Service.

And by that, I mean that everyone should be required to work two weeks in a customer service environment - in a supermarket, in an inbound call centre, or in a coffee shop.

The basic level of communication skill and empathy I’ve learned there has set me up reasonably well in life - and it’s remarkable how far you get with another human on the other end of a phone or teller screen by just “playing the game”, “appreciating that there’s tickboxes needing to be checked” and “not being a cunt”.

I’m not saying the solution is perfect but fuck me, it would solve a lot of entitlement problems.

That last one is a belter!

Hey I recognise that part of the song!

yeah it’s probably bollocks but people of a…certain vintage can’t think of stories of sucking oneself off without making the link to big Brian himself.

something something Marilyn Manson something something bottom two ribs

Summit (Play Store)

Absolutely love that CCC talk, very interesting and quite entertaining too.

Cheeky bastards.

It looks like a pepperoni pizza that was stored on its end.