HexesofVexes

I dunno about a fun game to play, but it’s a really neat way to explore Markov chains!

Well, next time I need to fart while lecturing I know what I’m doing…

1. Employment - you currently have 0 social encumbrance. It’s a good time to job hop and move around, you meet a lot of people and learn a lot of social cues. Also better job gives more money for gaming.

2. Stop looking; the dating world post 30 is absolutely horrific, and it will destroy your mental health. The people in there are not all that bad, but the online dating scene brings out the worst in everyone. Time to explore the wilds and visit local cafes (worst comes to worst, you get good tea/coffee).

3. The type of people you meet varies with the type of game you play. If it has “more tits than a birdwatcher’s photobook”, you’re not going to meet many women. If it’s a wholesome online farming sim that ratio changes, but it’s still rough as a guy. Games are great for meeting people, but not for meeting lovers.

4. At the end of the day, when the loneliness bites hard, don’t be afraid to call a hotline for help.

5. Ok, ready for the big one? Stop looking for a partner and start looking for friends - the kind of people you can sit in a cafe with, or complain about work with. Guys, girls or those in between; doesn’t matter. The thing that helped me most was making a few good friends who I still travel over a hundred miles to meet monthly, and who I game with weekly online.

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Yes and no; I’ve met some people who were great to date but hell to live with.

A good relationship starts with both people knowing what they want - and continual contact helps determine if the other person is being honest about what they want. Post 35/30, this process is often a lot faster, and dating skill matters less than ability not to annoy the person you’re suddenly around 24/7.

If it matches from the start, or a compromise grows, you’re in for a winner. Otherwise, back to the sea of the undead you go, no matter how good your dating skill!

Intention and reality are two different things - although I can’t say I ever managed casual dating for 2 years! Usually most folks are in a relationship after 1.

I think it goes further than that - post 35 (post 30 really) there is a lot more pressure to shift from casual dating to a relationship at a faster pace.

Life experience talking here too, it isn’t just “being upfront”, it’s also being willing to move at a faster pace.

The real secret to dating after 35 - don’t.

Folks are not looking to “date”: they’re after long term commitment OR quick hook ups. The middle ground really vanishes when you get older!

Fun UK fact - we use a different ranking system for lecturers:

Lecturer Senior Lecturer Reader Professor

That means, at some point, someone has been a “Reader in X at Reading”.

Exactly - if you don’t want to date a trans person don’t. If someone conceals it, that’s not an issue with them being trans, that’s an issue with them being dishonest. It’s ok to dislike dishonest people.

The use of the word cis has its roots in an obscure Usenet group; it’s genesis (apparently) rooted in a desire for more inclusive language for trans folks (the notion that “gender” Vs “transgender” was too othering).

It hit Tumblr like a train in the 2010s, and became a symbolic phrase in trans counterculture. “Cisgender” was less than popular with non-trans people, as it robbed them of the illusion of normality and turned the word “gender” into a social trap.

It later found derogatory use in the phrase “cissy” (a counter for the popular derogatory term “tranny”).

It’s a fun word with an interesting history, and it has helped contribute to the wider acceptance of trans folks.

You definitely have a point; informing and evangelising are closer than we’d like to admit. Then again, the messenger is often as important as the message - in the case of the vegan debate too many folks choose the moral option rather than the pragmatic one.

As a species, we find it hard to empathise with the death of our own at massive scales, why would we be capable of doing it for organisms we were brought up to consider food?

However, almost all of us are on a massively reduced budget, it’d be a shame if folks shared delicious recipes that can be made cheaply and just so happen to be vegan right?

The next best thing for a non-vegan to do isn’t to switch right away, it’s to start finding vegan things you enjoy more than meat!

Sorry to hear that, I hope things start looking up in the future.

Happy trails!

To enjoy life as a vegan?

The best thing for a vegan to do is to keep being a vegan. Seriously, just keep on doing it.

It doesn’t mean evangelise, it doesn’t mean denigrate, it means just carry on doing what works for you.

If you’re insulting other folks, or trying to push a lifestyle, odds are folks don’t dislike you because you’re vegan.

Mathematics Lecturer (just teaching foundation mind).

It’s far more fun than people think, but with next to no real holidays (summer is actually quite busy). Also it sucked being on temporary contract, because you had no idea if you’d have work in 12 months no matter how good you were.

The thought process of every middle manager I’ve ever worked under.

Oh no! Your neighbour will really be upset now…

What they meant us your lawn has less than the regulation number of dandelions. Quick, go gather seeds and start replanting!

“I didn’t realise the circus was in town!”

“Were your parents siblings, or was it just a lot of head trauma?”

“I’d tell you to read the room, but we both know reading isn’t your strong suite.”

“What other tricks can you do?”

Can reliably code in - Python, Lua, R (if it counts)

Can badly code in - C++, Prolog, Visual Basic

Can read the syntax of - Java, JavaScript, GDscript, Basic, SQL

Will never touch - PERL

Well, that disproves the effectiveness of that metric!