• Franklin@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    IMO either party doing this is fine as long as it’s discussed and within the comfort bounds of the people in the relationship.

    I think the problem is an expectation when there has been no discussion about whether or not it’s within someone’s limits.

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      1 year ago

      I have no issue with oral sex between consenting adults. But this meme would not be as well received if the genders were reversed. It’s hard to even imagine someone posting “always be there for your man in a time of crisis” with the woman going down on the guy.

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        1 year ago

        I believe “consenting” is key here.

        The reason why it’s taboo if the genders were reversed is because there is a long and well documented history of non-consent when genders are reversed.

        Was there non-consent where gals are forcing guys? Very likely. However what evidence I’ve seen suggests this is dwarfed by guys forcing gals.

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        8 months ago

        part of the joke is the reversal of the stereotype.
        breaking stereotypes = good
        enforcing stereotypes = bad

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        1 year ago

        I can only speak for myself but I wouldn’t really mind it the other way around as long as there’s no implied use of force or manipulation.