I stopped messing with port forwarding and reverse proxies and fail2ban and all the other stuff a long time ago.

Everything is accessible for login only locally, and then I add Tailscale (alternative would be ZeroTier) on top of it. Boom, done. Everything is seamless, I don’t have any random connection attempts clogging up my logging, and I’ve massively reduced my risk surface. Sure I’m not immune; if the app communicates on the internet, it must be regularly patched, and that I do my best to keep up with.